If you find yourself getting to that point where you are seriously considering a divorce, before you make any decisions at all, consult an attorney and a divorce coach. Most attorneys and coaches will give you a short consultation for free, typically 30 minutes or less. My suggestion is to at least talk to two different ones. I can’t stress enough the importance of having the right coach and attorney that fit your personality as well as your budget.

Tip #10: Consult a Certified Divorce Coach and an Attorney

A Certified Divorce Coach is a must. I suggest finding one at the early stage of contemplating a divorce. An expert will be able to provide you with mentorship and resources to assist every step of the way. She will be part of your support system, your guide, and your cheerleader. She will put you in contact with experts such as financial planners, attorneys, therapists, and other reliable resources. The ultimate goal of a Certified Divorce Coach is to help you stay in control, save time, save money, save you heartache, and keep you out of the court system, if possible. She will be focused on assisting you holistically with the overall state of your mind, body, and spirit. Reach out to me if you need a referral. I know someone who is an expert in this field!

For an attorney, keep in mind that the one you choose is just that – an attorney. They are not your therapist, life coach, or best friend. When you meet with one, you need to have your ducks in a row. In other words, you must have everything organized. Make a list of questions. Attorneys typically charge you for every minute of their time unless you have settled on a flat rate. So don’t break down and cry when meeting with your attorney. Save that for when you are with your girlfriends or when you are alone.

If you find yourself lost and not knowing where to start, begin with accumulating all the pertinent information that an attorney might ask for, below are some of the most common questions asked:

• What are your sources of income?
• What are your total debts?
• What type of retirement accounts do you have?
• What other accounts exist?

Now that you are aware of the most common questions, find yourself either an experienced financial planner or a certified divorce financial analyst. Either one of these two people can assist you with the arduous task of gathering this information. They truly can be lifesavers and your best friends.

When I was going through my divorce, I was not a financial planner yet. I was referred to a female divorce financial analyst by a dear friend of mine. She assisted me when my whole life was crashing down. She was a Godsend! Thank you, Krys! You not only helped me survive during one of the most difficult times of my life, but you helped me make that pivot to become my best self.

Pursuing Your Best Self

In my book, Unforeseen Exit: When You Find Yourself Facing Divorce & Suddenly Single, I tell my story of navigating an unforeseen divorce. By openly telling my story, I want to provide guidance and support to those who have found themselves in similar circumstances, so they can pursue their best self personally and financially!

For more information on how I can support you as your financial planner, schedule a discovery meeting with me today!